What makes up the mentality of a boy that he cannot cry in public? How does he come to the point of looking at crying as a trait more feminine and less masculine? Crying is merely a behavior and no universal laws have been introduced or no theories have been put forth to label behaviors as feminine or masculine. The causation of this mental setup is because of something known as a gender construction. A gender that is created by psychological, social, and cultural differences. Unlike sex which is natural and biologically you are born with, gender is a concept fed to you by people: the gender system.
Parents are the primary contacts of infants. And the view of the world of babies starts shaping itself from an early age. Hence, parents play a major role in one's gender construction. Parents decide the clothes, color, toys, games, et cetera, a kid would be involved in. Everything is chosen differently for boys and girls even decoration of their rooms has been done differently. Fathers mostly encourage their daughters to participate in games and give them cars and video games but they do not like to do the same for their sons. A girl can wear jeans, but a boy cannot wear a babushka. Because if boys are seen participating in feminine tasks their masculinity is doubted. And researches have shown that male desire to appear masculine and take their gender more seriously: and they will redouble their performance in behavior culturally coded masculine. This is a good explanation of why boys do not cry when surrounded by people.
The role of media and institutions should not be neglected in the creation of gender differences. Internet sites, advertisement, and rules of an institution are significant agents in distinguishing between the role of men and women as well as it portrays what is expected from both. Girls and boys wear a different uniform for school, women are paid less for the same job as men, and a male makeup artist would get viral all over social media for his outstanding artistic skills, but when a woman takes the same initiative through blogging she would merely be a blogger because makeup is something naturally expected activity from a woman to perform. Moreover, television adds a female is always portrayed as busy in the household like doing laundry, doing dishes, making tea, or cooking food. In contrast, men are shown as breadwinners. Stereotypically men are shown holding powerful roles in society. And this is how women end up in a narrow range of roles over screen than in real life.
If you are a K-POP fan or in particular a BTS Army you would know how those seven young Artists are often ridiculed for wearing makeup. They are spreading good messages through their music, but still, people want to drag them down calling them feminine or gay as if being one is an insult or a curse. People have more business to do with their appearance and less to do with their music. Skincare is a necessity for every sex, but the way we have been socialized has taught us conventions about gender—makeup, the color pink, and having dolls is categorized as feminine activities. While video games, the color blue, or having racing cars is looked at as a symbol of masculinity. Though one's sexual orientation has nothing to do with the activities listed above.
What we know as gender is an alloy of gender expressions, gender expectations, and gender behaviors. There is no biological, physical, or another real basis that gives rise to gender. No doubt sexes are natural, but gender is nothing more than social construction or image put into your minds. There is a general arrangement that is visible in clothing, colors, toys, jobs, and many more things. Gender is an idea pulled over your eyes and that has no independent existence without social convenience. And it has been proven by researches that both genders, when told their actions are monitored act more in a way that is being expected from them. And males especially do not like the idea of someone doubting their masculinity, therefore, they will do everything that proves their masculinity socially.