"Love and Betryal", Two sides of the same coin

October 18 2021  ·  3 min read

Here it comes again the pain of betrayal, just the price I have to pay, for being way too loyal, it hits me hard again, the pain of abandonment, just a follow up on being nave and ignorant.

There it is again, the pain of losing faith, locking away my feelings, fighting against the hate.

I fall again, the pain of shattered trust, is there no true friend, my spirit is being crushed can’t do this again, too many broken promises maybe I will just give up on friendship, my soul can’t handle any more bruises.

~Jean Webster

Being betrayed by a loved one is the most difficult thing you might have to deal with. It completely changes your thinking and genuine feelings towards someone. It might feel like you were taken advantage of cheated, deceived, and stabbed in the back by the person whom you trust the most. oftentimes such outcomes and circumstances shatter you into small pieces and our sentiments change and as emotions change so do one’s actions and choices. The damage which has been done to us is irreparable and nothing can be the same again. Wounds ran deep when hearts are broken and the trust is lost. You couldn’t believe how someone you love the most can suddenly turn into a different human being. When you trust and love someone wholeheartedly the impact of their betrayal is far greater than an enemy or foe who betrayed you. The greater the impact of betrayal the greater the distress you will feel. It's human nature that we don’t expect to get hurt so badly by someone who means the world to us. Their actions and disloyalty lefts us in disbelief and unending pain. love is the essence of life, the most beautiful and soothing feeling, and the basis of a happy life but betrayal, disloyalty, and lies make Love the worst experience anybody can have. Such pathetic experiences change who we are, our being, our inner selves and transform the smallest of things that build our courage, character, and confidence. love and betrayal are so intertwined that one cannot exist without the other and the pain of betrayal is so deep, long-lasting, and real which badly ruins the lives of those who have experienced it. Time heals every wound and every individual who became the victim of betrayal needs time to restore his or her faith in other people. They might find it so difficult to ever trust again. They might be more guarded and protective of themselves to protect themselves from more hurting and suffering. As a result of betrayal, the bond between two individuals may change but ultimately how it changes you is what matters the most. You might not understand why you had the victim mentality of “why me ”and the feeling of low self-worth. These feelings are natural because very often we expect love, respect, and care in return without knowing the true character of a second person. We encounter such painful experiences because we have forgotten to love our self. When we start to love ourselves unconditionally, life reflects that back to us. when you learn to love yourself fully you create a happy and loving environment to flourish in then why should you expect love and loyalty from people when all they give is sadness and betrayal? loving yourself is the source of all healing so move on and go with the flow.

Neither we can pay someone to love us unconditionally nor we can stop people from betraying us but we can protect ourselves from all the vulnerabilities, fake promises, and commitments by learning to love ourselves.

“I begin to understand that sufferings and disappointment and melancholy are there not to vex us or cheapen us or deprive us of our dignity but to mature and transfigure us”.

~Herman Hesse



Salma naz

Salma naz

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