The country's shame
August 18 2021 · 3 min read
Why was she out late at night without a brother or husband? Why was she not wearing a veil? Why she had such a dress code?
Perhaps these are the questions ask after when a woman gets victimized. Every single day we get to hear a new humiliation story; a rape case, harassment, and molestation case. But where are the perpetrators? Why are not they brought to the limelight and get punished?
Unfortunately, criminals move freely in our society but the ones who get crimes on could never even breathe. They torture themselves for the sins they never have committed and live with that guilt.
We as women always have to ensure our bodies are properly covered and stay indoors when it’s dark because men apparently turn into predators after sunset. When a woman gets raped in the daytime, for being a woman in our culture it’s just an incident and she is to be blamed. After all, we wouldn’t get harassed if we stayed inside and never stepped out of the home. If we were groped in public places, we shouldn’t have been in a crowd but if we were molested in offices then we should never have been alone with employers (men) at work. Driving alone is like inviting men to get harassed and driving with men is providing another chance for people and police (our so-called protectors) to harass us for being with men. When we are harassed, molest, beaten, abused, bullied, raped or acid attacked is said to be always our fault.
Yet no one deserves to be humiliated. Women in burqas have been raped as those wearing jeans. Infants and Toddlers are raped and are mothers. Transgender is raped. Dead bodies are dug out of graves and raped, even animals get abused. We as a society question what women wear but what about the mask rapists wear has never been questioned.
To the best of my belief violence against women is happening in our society for centuries and couldn’t have been replaced by the reputable status of women where they should be. Having upbringing in a male dominant society, girls have been moving in their lives under the umbrella of honour and become helpless being oppressed in this brutal society. Our societies have set rules specifically for girls only and boys are their priority to enlighten them with quality education and a girl is chosen for home chores. Do we always keep our head high with the pride of being Muslim but do our deeds actually make us proud? I wonder if we get successful without following the path shown by our Holly Prophet and teachings of the Holy Quran. Our society has come up with so many unethical actions but why our heads are high with pride living on the darker edge of implementation?
However, there’s a famous statement “not all men are same” and I believed but the very recent shameful incident that happened in our country reflected “yes all men are the same”. A woman continuously was getting groped, harassed, assaulted, stripped naked, and rapped by a bunch of wolves wearing the skin of men all at once. What could compel every man there to act like a monster? Not a single soul gets shattered and protected her from violence. Despite they filmed what happened. This is where we live, in a nation where crime is free to live after committing a crime. Hundreds of cases each day but victims remain silent just because of what people say and would they be able to live among people after knowing she was assaulted? When few try to raise their voices and seek their rights, our law enforcement agencies shun their voices. With pleading eyes and a mournful voice she has to swallow the brutality.
Is this what women deserve? She is not even safe in her own nation, and how she expects to be safe somewhere else. Because we live in a society where we are going to be blamed and never feel safe been around men makes us question ourselves, “Whether will we return our homes if we leave once”?