Crisis of satisfaction!!!
August 20 2021 · 4 min read
“So you are saying that you had to study for 12 years of impracticably complicated nonsense just to get admitted to this university and now it seems like a common room for dead squirrels and anti-social racists with no self-respect?”
“I don’t know why we were so desperate for these useless kids? Might as well have bought a cow, at least they would have the power of summoning 1.5 billion people!”
“We didn’t vote for this shit and now we are stuck with him” were the comments people made in the time when the white house had to deal with trump’s presidency. Dear privileged white person, for you it’s your president, for an average South Asian couple, that’s just a marriage. Because quite literally, your parents choose this guy for you in the first place.
It is very definitive that you have been a victim of these comments in your life. There is always this guy who is just not liking his job, that friend who always complains about his spouse, and one family member who doesn’t like his grandmother for giving him a stupid name.
Let’s take a closer look and apprehend the causes for this problem;
1. Evolutional diplomacy:
According to Neil deGrasse Tyson’s national geographic special, if the whole history of the universe was to be represented in a 24-hour timeline then humans would appear only at 23:59. In such a small period, we are on the top of the food chain where only a highly adaptive and extremely dangerous animal can survive.
Lack of satisfaction has been the greatest motivator for whatever we had achieved. Just imagine if we were satisfied with the moon being the palace of gods or the explanations our parents gave us for the birth of babies.
Thus, the genes for lack of satisfaction have been passed for generations. They can only be nullified with intense care during the early phase of child development by teaching ethics and a sense of belonging to the social framework of society.
2. First-or-Last syndrome:
“Oh you were so great my little dum dum, let’s go and eat your favorite ice cream” “oh papa, why are you celebrating when I am in seventh place? Please tell me how to come first in the next race.” The little kid looked to her father expecting to hear some wise word, “Oh don’t worry dum dum, just wait for the day when those six runners are not participating, and you will surely come first that day!”
If your parents ever say something like this, just know that you have a better childhood than the rest of the world. This variation of sapiens has vanished from the universe altogether. The struggle to become the best has shadowed the beauty of celebrating imperfections.
The best way to deal with this problem is to replace the words “first and last” with “ahead and behind” simultaneously. This small tweak is just enough to change the perspective of the whole education system.
“What the hell have you done with your hair?” was the first comment I received back home. The funny thing is that this came from a shopkeeper I had just seen twice in my whole life. “Nothing, they are just long!” I barked at him whist walking away with the speed of light.
Expectations are the worst enemies of satisfaction. If you are a parent and you think it is appropriate to have expectations from your children, get ready for a roller coaster ride. “My parents hate me and they happen to love everyone else” is a complaint on every other teenager’s tongue.
The most satisfied and successful people know how much to expect from every relation. This is the reason why they are never surprised with anything and they don’t fall apart just because some beloved constipated existence told them they were not good enough.
Agree or not, we are in a crisis of satisfaction. Almost everyone is aware of this problem but it has been ignored for too long. Some incredible work has been done by mystical poets and intellectuals like Hassan al Basra and Osho about being satisfied with what nature has given you. But humans have yet to lose everything to understand what it truly means to be grateful for what they have. So, before you go back your regular eventful life, just ask yourself this once; Are we (as a human) not in the most comfortable time in human history? Surely yes, but are we the most joyful generation in human history?